Tuesday, July 20, 2010

A Place of Our Own... FINALLY!!!

So, mom finally reached the breaking point with Nana. It has been a long time coming, and it's about time if you ask me. We were staying with Nana at her request. Both, to help her with her bills and yard etc, and so we could try to save money to get a house of our own soon. At least that's what she said when she asked us to stay there a few years ago. Of course, when we moved in there, we were paying $800 a month, plus buying all the groceries, so we couldn't actually save a dime. Not to mention the fact that we did all the cooking, kept the house clean, and did the yard work. And did we get a drop of appreciation for all of this?? NO! All we got was criticism. For example: She went to Tennessee to work on her other house for a week or two back in March. We maintained the house on a regular basis, as we would if she was home, and then the weekend before her return we overhauled the house completely. Scrubbed the bathrooms, kitchen, floors, windows, not an inch of the house was left untidy. Not a speck of dust was to be seen, which, since it is a brick house with wood and tile flooring is not an easy task! The yard was mowed and weedeated, we even cleaned out the flowerbeds!! Do you think we got a "The house looks great" or "Thank you?" No. We got... "Why didn't you clean out the back fence?" Which, honestly is on par with what we expected to get, but it still hurts that the hard work and effort you put forth is ignored. As if that wasn't bad enough, she treated my mother abysmally. She was always critical of everything she did, she would go out and do things with her other daughter, which, is fine, except, she wouldn't even call and let us know anything and mom would have dinner ready and we would be waiting for her only for her to waltz in and say "Oh, I've already eaten." And she constantly lied about what she was doing, which was stupid because none of us gave a crap what she did, but it would aggravate when we found out she had lied, and it hurt mom to boot. But the final straw came when she accused my brother of stealing. When my brother was in school he took a photography class, and he paid my Nana $50 for an old Cannon camera she had. He used it, and it went into storage when we moved. Well, a few months ago she suddenly decided she wanted the camera back, and mom told her that we would get it when we got a chance to go out to storage. Well, we went to storage, brought the camera back, and it sat in mom's room for a while. Nana didn't bring it up again, and we forgot that she wanted it. Not a big deal. Well, one night Travis came over and he was standing there playing with the camera and showing his wife the lens. Nana saw this and became enraged, claiming Travis had gone into her room to steal the lens. Which, was untrue, the lens had been in the case when he opened it. He had purchased it with the camera. Nana threw a fit, saying she hadn't sold him the camera, she had lent it to him... A favored tactic of hers by the way... The wicker bed I sleep on now was purchased by my mother when she was younger, and Nana claimed years later it was hers and mom wound up having to purchase her own bed back from her mother! Anyway... There was a huge fight and mom told her that we would be out by the end of the week. The next day, mom went out and looked around and found us a house!! It's a tiny little thing. It has 3 bedrooms, so we all have our own space though. It does have only one bathroom, but we take turns using it. :) It's cute, and cozy, and we are slowly making it ours. We bought furniture and we're getting our pictures and things hung on the walls. We absolutely love having our own place even if it is just renting for now! And it's like, $50 a month cheaper, so we're saving money there and on groceries! It's so great not to have to walk around on egg shells so as not to upset Nana anymore. We're so happy. The only other flaw it has besides being only 1 bathroom is that our internet has been spotty since we moved. We're not sure if there's something wrong with the card, or if it's because of all the trees. It works better on my computer, but I'm not able to get it very often unfortunately. Other than that though, it's great!! As soon as we get everything settled, I'll post pictures for everyone to see. :)